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The Gift of Empathy

I want to give you the gift of empathy
And to rid myself of lifeless thought limiting what I see
It’s taken me a while but I’ve come to see at last
How much I miss the present with eyes fogged by the past
So if I take some time before I answer you
I am clearing away my projections
So your divinity can come through
(Dr Marshall Rosenberg)

In the 21st century we are beginning to see that living in right relationship with ourselves, each other and all the kingdoms of nature will become not a choice, but a necessity, for the survival and sustainability of all life on Mother Earth; and to end poverty and war as a scourge on our planet, an unnatural state of being, on our evolutionary journey. We yearn for a new livingness which will demonstrate our true nature as souls in incarnation, a new paradigm which will enable our conscious shift from a culture of violence to a culture of peace. We recognise with growing awareness and urgency that peace begins with each one of us.

                                        

The great peace reformer, Mahatma Gandhi, once said that non-violence is a life force, that when harnessed becomes contagious and can disarm nations and change the world. It begins in our hearts, where we renounce the violence inside us, then it moves outwards with active, persistent truth and love, towards our families, towards our communities, towards our nation and out into the world.

Empathy and compassion are qualities of the soul which foster understanding and connection with ourselves and others. It is a consciousness of the heart, flowing from the Divine Essence of Life itself. This quality of empathic connection is the cornerstone of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), the Language of Life, founded by cultural creative and peace-maker, the late Dr Marshall Rosenberg. It is practiced by NVCers all over the globe.

                                          

 

 

These qualities were understood and employed by one of the greatest US Presidents of all time, Abraham Lincoln. He transformed possible “enemies” into friends with the power of compassion and empathy, qualities which seemed innate within the depth and wisdom of his character. Lincoln was also a keen observer of human nature.

Historian Doris Kearns Goodwin wrote that ” Mr Lincoln possessed extraordinary empathy – the gift or curse of putting himself in the place of another, to experience what they were feeling, to understand their motives and desires.” Others have said, “He played on the human heart as a master on an instrument.” He gave the key-note to his own character when he said, “With malice towards none, with charity for all.” Gratitude was a religion with him. Lincoln’s capacity for compassion and empathy was the hallmark of his greatness, a true giant among men.

Empathy is a quality of character that can change the world.

As we march into the 21st century, we know deep within our hearts the time for war is past, that for our planet to survive, we must discard the weapons of destruction and war as a monstrous blight upon the Earth, causing untold pain, suffering and death to countless millions. Humanity has come of age and is ready, above all else, for a diverse Culture of Peace, Compassion and Empathy within our homes, schools, workplaces, for the custodianship of Mother Earth, and most of all within our world governments. Indeed, compassion and empathy may be the most essential qualities needed for the restoration, care and sustainability of our beautiful bountiful planet; the future welfare of humanity and all the kingdoms of nature. There is nothing more powerful than a vision whose time has come and the time has come to manifest our collective dream for lasting world peace and unity as One global family. Imagine that!
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Author: Sophia Tara
Photo Credits: Creative Commons

Angels & Miracles

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ANGELS & MIRACLES: Toward A New Age of Unity & Synthesis

Do You Believe in Angels? Do You Believe in Miracles? 

Miracles have been occurring in increasing numbers in the last three decades. Share International connects these miracles to a bigger story: the emergence of a group of spiritual teachers at this critical time.

At their head is Maitreya, the World Teacher. Expected by all religious groups under different names, he comes not as a religious teacher, but as an educator in the broadest sense, for people of all faiths and those of none. His mission is to bring the nations together in brotherhood, and to inspire the creation of a new civilization based on justice, sharing and world peace.

The dawning of the New Age of Unity and Synthesis is upon us. With Maitreya and his group working openly in the world, offering their guidance and teachings, humanity is assured not only of survival but of the creation of a brilliant new civilization.

Come and share our Message of Hope.

Date: Monday 21 November 2016
Time: 7.00pm-9.00pm
Venue: Trinity Union Church, 11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), Newtown,
 Wellington, New Zealand

FREE ENTRY. ALL WELCOME.
Koha/Donations
 gratefully accepted

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free parks at the church. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map:  
https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

Enquiries email: share.international.nz@gmail.com

Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

Do You Play the Blame Game of Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong?

Date: Sunday 20 November 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame  (DAGS) are caused by moralistic judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which results in the arrival of its first cousins – Guilt, Shame and Depression.

Anger tells us we think the ‘bad person’ is somebody else.
Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the ‘bad person’.

These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking, moralistic judgements and the ‘domination’ and ‘power over’ systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They lead to a culture of violence and bullying, adversely affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves.

In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us.

What Will You Experience at this Mini-Workshop?
1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
2) Unpacking the language of Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS)
3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the ‘Jackal Show’
4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour
5) Find the ‘gift’ beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy to ‘make life more wonderful’
6) Shift your thinking patterns and self-talk that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression
7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs, painful relationships and to make requests of yourself and others
8) Experiential DAGS Dance on the ‘Flower of Life’
9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an ‘Enemy Image’
10) Build your EQ Literacy with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation

Explore possible entrenched causative effects and triggers, self-judgements and fear. Learn to mourn and celebrate. Process clarity through the expression of feelings and needs, authenticity and vulnerability. Build gradual understanding and personal transformation, through self-empathy, self-connection, self-acceptance and radical self-compassion.

NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Pre-requisite:
If you have attended a NVC Foundation training or The Power of Empathy workshops, and read, studied, watched videos and practised NVC, then this would be helpful to enrich your experience. If you are a “natural giraffe” and/or think you can gain meaningful insights into the NVC Empathy process at work, you’re very welcome to join us. There is learning to be gained at every level, as an observer or participant, and no one is ever turned away.

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com
Phone/Text 027 345 2010

Your Facilitator: 
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region 14 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, Peace Movement Aotearoa, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

All Late Bookings Welcome – no one is turned away 🙂

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street) just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free parks. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map  
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Stellarnauts

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How do I paint words in your true colours
The seven dimensional you
On landscapes of my Heart
Gently caressing my mind

Shall I sit amid etheric webs
In timeless pulsation
Threading strands to your heart-beat
Weaving auric rainbows
To radiate as One

Or ascend summits in alpine crispness
Breathless and windswept
Majestically grounded
From heights of grandeur

Or zoom across night skies
On a zillion stars
Cosmic Stellarnauts in far flung worlds
To seek to find to shine

To scale the seven planes
To turn the seven keys
Lifetime after lifetime
Until we knowingly pass
This way before

Unravelling silver threads
Woven in timeless unity
The me in you
The you in me
Astride the vault of heaven

With fiery hearts ablaze
Cosmic twins unite
In kissfull bliss
Star by Star
Eternity to Eternity

© Sophia Tara

Photo Credit: NASA

 

The Power Of Empathy

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EMPATHY IS A QUALITY OF CHARACTER THAT CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

In Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we learn to understand Empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what’s alive for them in a given moment.  We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen with an open heart and open mind. 
 
Date: Sunday 13 November 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below
The Power of Empathy:
Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication.  It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said.  It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking.  While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-EMPATHY skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourselves and others.  This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being, that brings healing compassionate connection into our life, through the Power of Empathy.
 
What is Self-Empathy? 
In Self-Empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently.  We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying and the ‘stories’ we tell ourselves.


What will you learn in this 4 hour workshop? 

Summary of the 4-step NVC process
Understanding Strategies & Requests
Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework
Role Playing Conflict Situations With Empathy
Strengthen your PRESENCE skills
Experience an Empathy Circle
Enjoy the Empathy Dance
Develop Emotional Intelligence & Literacy (EQ)

Your Facilitator:
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region 14 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, and also Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Brief Testimonials from Participants:
“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Book & Pay:
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.  Please let me know if you have difficulty with payment.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

All Late Bookings Welcome – no one is turned away 🙂

RSVP & Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street) just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free parks. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map 
https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Angels & Miracles

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ANGELS & MIRACLES: New Age of Unity & Synthesis

Do You Believe in Angels? Do You Believe in Miracles? 

Miracles have been occurring in increasing numbers in the last three decades. Share International connects these miracles to a bigger story: the emergence of a group of spiritual teachers at this critical time.

At their head is Maitreya, the World Teacher. Expected by all religious groups under different names, he comes not as a religious teacher, but as an educator in the broadest sense, for people of all faiths and those of none. His mission is to bring the nations together in brotherhood, and to inspire the creation of a new civilization based on justice, sharing and world peace.

The dawning of the New Age of Unity and Synthesis is upon us. With Maitreya and his group working openly in the world, offering their guidance and teachings, humanity is assured not only of survival but of the creation of a brilliant new civilization.

Come and share our Message of Hope.

Date: Monday 24 October 2016
Time: 7.00pm-9.00pm
Venue: Trinity Union Church, 11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), Newtown,
 Wellington, New Zealand

FREE ENTRY. ALL WELCOME.
KOHA/DONATIONS
gratefully accepted

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free parks at the church. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map  https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

Enquiries email: share.international.nz@gmail.com

How Can We Sleep

Aaron-Cohen

How can we sleep
While poverty grows
Feeding gross indignity
On the human divide
The human divide
Dark side of austerity

How can we sleep
While children’s eyes
Die hollow with hunger and need
On a planet of plenty
A planet of plenty
Usurped by war and greed

How can we sleep
While warmongers feed
Hostility hatred and fears
They gorge their coffers
Gorge their coffers
On human suffering and tears

How can we sleep
While fearmongers breed
In the bourse of injustice and pain
They forge money markets
Forge money markets
Without conscience for wealth and gain

How can we sleep
While the dark abyss looms
Larger than love and life
Averting our eyes
Averting our eyes
From the shadows of suffering and strife

 

© Sophia Tara
Photo Credit: Aaron Cohen
Darfur refugees returning from slavery in the north of Sudan.

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Mindfulness Practice: Ten Steps To Peace

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TEN STEPS TO PEACE 

(1) Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how we would
like to relate to ourselves and others.

(2) Remember that all human beings have the same needs.

(3) Check our intention to see if we are as interested in others
getting their needs met as our own.

(4) When asking someone to do something, check first to see if we
are making a request or a demand.

(5) Instead of saying what we DON’T want someone to do, say
what we DO want the person to do.

(6) Instead of saying what we want someone to BE, say what
action we’d like the person to take that we hope will help the
person be that way.

(7) Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone’s opinions, try to
tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.

(8) Instead of saying “No,” say what need of ours prevents us
from saying “Yes.”

(9) If we are feeling upset, think about what need of ours is not
being met, and what we could do to meet it, instead of
thinking about what’s wrong with others or ourselves.

(10) Instead of praising someone who did something we like,
express our gratitude by telling the person what need of ours
that action met.

2001, revised 2004 Gary Baran & CNVC.
The right to freely duplicate this document is hereby granted.

A Beautiful Time To Die

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You always had style, my sister,
even when you had no two coins
to rub together, you managed
to put dinner on the table,
to look ever elegant,
and raise two sons
plus a husband,
on music and a smile.
I remember tripping over
cords attached to guitars,
microphones, saxophones
and drums, a veritable
chaotic musical house mess,
jam sessions together,
and the animals;
You were a true lover
of creatures great and small,
stray cats and dogs dined
with selected house pets,
you, too kind-hearted
too averse to turn them away.
Now as you lay sleeping,
I feel your loving presence
as do many mourners gathered
to celebrate your kind deeds
and the life they shared
at one time or other, with you.
The heralding of Spring
continues ever the cycle
of rebirth, warm new life;
an eternal truth that death
is only a new beginning
as the Great Wheel turns,
and in the Spring gardens
Gaia’s children come out to play,
songbirds and devas harmonising
in bursts of colour and chorus.
We weave your last wreath with flowers
of brilliant golds, purples and reds
and marvel that you chose, in true style,
a beautiful time to die.

 

© Sophia Tara

 

The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication

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