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Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

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Do You Play the Blame Game of Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong? 

Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame  (DAGS) are caused by moralistic judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which results in the arrival of its first cousins – Guilt, Shame and Depression.

Anger tells us we think the ‘bad person’ is somebody else.
Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the ‘bad person’.

These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking, moralistic judgements and the ‘domination’ and ‘power over’ systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They lead to a culture of violence and bullying, adversely affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves.

In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us.

What Will You Experience at this Mini-Workshop?
1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
2) Unpacking the language of Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS)
3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the ‘Jackal Show’
4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour
5) Find the ‘gift’ beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy to ‘make life more wonderful’
6) Shift your thinking patterns and self-talk that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression
7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs, painful relationships and to make requests of yourself and others
8) Experiential DAGS Dance on the ‘Flower of Life’
9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an ‘Enemy Image’
10) Build your EQ Literacy with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation

Explore possible entrenched causative effects and triggers, self-judgements and fear. Learn to mourn and celebrate. Process clarity through the expression of feelings and needs, authenticity and vulnerability. Build gradual understanding and personal transformation, through self-empathy, self-connection, self-acceptance and radical self-compassion.

NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Pre-requisite:
If you have attended a NVC Foundation training or The Power of Empathy workshops, and read, studied, watched videos and practised NVC, then this would be helpful to enrich your experience. If you are a “natural giraffe” and/or think you can gain meaningful insights into the NVC Empathy process at work, you’re very welcome to join us. There is learning to be gained at every level, as an observer or participant, and no one is ever turned away.      

Date: Sunday 20 November 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com
Phone/Text 027 345 2010

Your Facilitator: 
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, Peace Movement Aotearoa, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, Early Childhood Management, Alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

All Late Bookings Welcome – no one is turned away 🙂

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street) just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free parks. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
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Homeless – the faceless ones

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Wretchedness cast in blanketgrey
Life beaten to merciless embryonic submission
Severed from the placenta and womb of Life
Adrift in Time and Space

How many faceless ones
In this fair land
Millions more in nations
Rent by poverty and war

Wedged between stone walls
And wooden benches
Displaced cardboard boxes
Sent nowhere but despair 

Reflecting inner realities
Of countless lost Souls
Trapped in glass structures 
Of greed and materialism 

Impervious to the clarion call
“Build Solomon’s Temple!”

Hone our solar tools
Erect sacred shelters
Where none are turned from the Portals

O despairing ones
The hour has come to join hands
Reclaim our Spiritual Birthright
In the Father’s mansion
He awaits our return – Home

© Sophia Tara

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Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

Do You Play the Blame Game of Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong?

Date: Sunday 20 November 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame  (DAGS) are caused by moralistic judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which results in the arrival of its first cousins – Guilt, Shame and Depression.

Anger tells us we think the ‘bad person’ is somebody else.
Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the ‘bad person’.

These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking, moralistic judgements and the ‘domination’ and ‘power over’ systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They lead to a culture of violence and bullying, adversely affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves.

In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us.

What Will You Experience at this Mini-Workshop?
1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
2) Unpacking the language of Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS)
3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the ‘Jackal Show’
4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour
5) Find the ‘gift’ beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy to ‘make life more wonderful’
6) Shift your thinking patterns and self-talk that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression
7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs, painful relationships and to make requests of yourself and others
8) Experiential DAGS Dance on the ‘Flower of Life’
9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an ‘Enemy Image’
10) Build your EQ Literacy with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation

Explore possible entrenched causative effects and triggers, self-judgements and fear. Learn to mourn and celebrate. Process clarity through the expression of feelings and needs, authenticity and vulnerability. Build gradual understanding and personal transformation, through self-empathy, self-connection, self-acceptance and radical self-compassion.

NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Pre-requisite:
If you have attended a NVC Foundation training or The Power of Empathy workshops, and read, studied, watched videos and practised NVC, then this would be helpful to enrich your experience. If you are a “natural giraffe” and/or think you can gain meaningful insights into the NVC Empathy process at work, you’re very welcome to join us. There is learning to be gained at every level, as an observer or participant, and no one is ever turned away.

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com
Phone/Text 027 345 2010

Your Facilitator: 
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, Peace Movement Aotearoa, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

All Late Bookings Welcome – no one is turned away 🙂

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street) just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free parks. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map  
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The Power Of Empathy

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EMPATHY IS A QUALITY OF CHARACTER THAT CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

In Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we learn to understand Empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what’s alive for them in a given moment.  We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen with an open heart and open mind. 
 
Date: Sunday 13 November 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below
The Power of Empathy:
Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication.  It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said.  It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking.  While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-EMPATHY skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourselves and others.  This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being, that brings healing compassionate connection into our life, through the Power of Empathy.
 
What is Self-Empathy? 
In Self-Empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently.  We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying and the ‘stories’ we tell ourselves.


What will you learn in this 4 hour workshop? 

Summary of the 4-step NVC process
Understanding Strategies & Requests
Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework
Role Playing Conflict Situations With Empathy
Strengthen your PRESENCE skills
Experience an Empathy Circle
Enjoy the Empathy Dance
Develop Emotional Intelligence & Literacy (EQ)

Your Facilitator:
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, and also Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Brief Testimonials from Participants:
“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Book & Pay:
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.  Please let me know if you have difficulty with payment.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

All Late Bookings Welcome – no one is turned away 🙂

RSVP & Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street) just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free parks. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map 
https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Mindfulness Practice: Ten Steps To Peace

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TEN STEPS TO PEACE 

(1) Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how we would
like to relate to ourselves and others.

(2) Remember that all human beings have the same needs.

(3) Check our intention to see if we are as interested in others
getting their needs met as our own.

(4) When asking someone to do something, check first to see if we
are making a request or a demand.

(5) Instead of saying what we DON’T want someone to do, say
what we DO want the person to do.

(6) Instead of saying what we want someone to BE, say what
action we’d like the person to take that we hope will help the
person be that way.

(7) Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone’s opinions, try to
tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.

(8) Instead of saying “No,” say what need of ours prevents us
from saying “Yes.”

(9) If we are feeling upset, think about what need of ours is not
being met, and what we could do to meet it, instead of
thinking about what’s wrong with others or ourselves.

(10) Instead of praising someone who did something we like,
express our gratitude by telling the person what need of ours
that action met.

2001, revised 2004 Gary Baran & CNVC.
The right to freely duplicate this document is hereby granted.

The Power of Empathy

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 NVC Community

     EMPATHY IS A QUALITY OF CHARACTER THAT CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

In Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we come to understand Empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what’s alive for them in a given moment.  We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen. 

Date: Sunday 21 August 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below 

All Late Bookings Are Welcome and the door is always open on the day – no one is turned away 🙂


The Power of Empathy:

Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication.  It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said.  It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking.  While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-EMPATHY skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourselves and others.  This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being, that brings healing compassionate connection into our life, through the Power of Empathy.

What is Self-Empathy? 

In Self-Empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently.  We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying and the ‘stories’ we tell ourselves.


What Will You Experience In This 4 Hour Workshop? 

Summary of the 4-step NVC process
The 4 ways of hearing
The Empathy Dance integration
Strategies & Requests
Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework
Role Playing Conflict Situations With Empathy
Strengthen your PRESENCE skills
Experience an Empathy Circle
The Empathy Dance to NVC Songs
Develop Emotional Intelligence & Literacy (EQ)

Your Facilitator:
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region more than 10 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, and also Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Recent Testimonials from Participants:
“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Book & Pay:
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.  Please let me know if you have difficulty with payment.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

RSVP & Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions to get to the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz 

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The Gift of Empathy

I want to give you the gift of empathy
And to rid myself of lifeless thought limiting what I see
It’s taken me a while but I’ve come to see at last
How much I miss the present with eyes fogged by the past
So if I take some time before I answer you
I am clearing away my projections
So your divinity can come through
(Dr Marshall Rosenberg)

In the 21st century we are beginning to see that living in right relationship with ourselves, each other and all the kingdoms of nature will become not a choice, but a necessity, for the survival and sustainability of all life on Mother Earth; and to end poverty and war as a scourge on our planet, an unnatural state of being, on our evolutionary journey. We yearn for a new livingness which will demonstrate our true nature as souls in incarnation, a new paradigm which will enable our conscious shift from a culture of violence to a culture of peace. We recognise with growing awareness and urgency that peace begins with each one of us.

                                        
The great peace reformer, Mahatma Gandhi, once said that non-violence is a life force, that when harnessed becomes contagious and can disarm nations and change the world. It begins in our hearts, where we renounce the violence inside us, then it moves outwards with active, persistent truth and love, towards our families, towards our communities, towards our nation and out into the world.

Empathy and compassion are qualities of the soul which foster understanding and connection with ourselves and others. It is a consciousness of the heart, flowing from the Divine Essence of Life itself. This quality of empathic connection is the cornerstone of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), the Language of Life, founded by cultural creative and peace-maker, the late Dr Marshall Rosenberg. It is practiced by NVCers all over the globe.

                                          
These qualities were understood and employed by one of the greatest US Presidents of all time, Abraham Lincoln. He transformed possible “enemies” into friends with the power of compassion and empathy, qualities which seemed innate within the depth and wisdom of his character. Lincoln was also a keen observer of human nature.

Historian Doris Kearns Goodwin wrote that ” Mr Lincoln possessed extraordinary empathy – the gift or curse of putting himself in the place of another, to experience what they were feeling, to understand their motives and desires.” Others have said, “He played on the human heart as a master on an instrument.” He gave the key-note to his own character when he said, “With malice towards none, with charity for all.” Gratitude was a religion with him. Lincoln’s capacity for compassion and empathy was the hallmark of his greatness, a true giant among men.

Empathy is a quality of character that can change the world.

As we march into the 21st century, we know deep within our hearts the time for war is past, that for our planet to survive, we must discard the weapons of destruction and war as a monstrous blight upon the Earth, causing untold pain, suffering and death to countless millions. Humanity has come of age and is ready, above all else, for a diverse Culture of Peace, Compassion and Empathy within our homes, schools, workplaces, for the custodianship of Mother Earth, and most of all within our world governments. Indeed, compassion and empathy may be the most essential qualities needed for the restoration, care and sustainability of our beautiful bountiful planet; the future welfare of humanity and all the kingdoms of nature. There is nothing more powerful than a vision whose time has come and the time has come to manifest our collective dream for lasting world peace and unity as One global family. Imagine that!
NVC Liberate STara
Author: Sophia Tara
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Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

Do You Play the Blame Game of Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong? 

Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame  (DAGS) are caused by moralistic judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which result in the arrival of its first cousins – Guilt, Shame and Depression.

Anger tells us we think the ‘bad person’ is somebody else.
Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the ‘bad person’.

These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking, moralistic judgements and the ‘domination’ and ‘power over’ systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They lead to a culture of violence and bullying, adversely affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves.

In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us.

What Will You Experience at this Workshop?
1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
2) Unpacking the language of Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS)
3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the ‘Jackal Show’
4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour
5) Find the ‘gift’ beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy and to ‘make life more wonderful’
6) Shift your thinking patterns and self-talk that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression
7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs, painful relationships and to make requests of yourself and others
8) Experiential DAGS Dancing on the ‘Flower of Life’
9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an ‘Enemy Image’
10) Build your EQ Literacy with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation

NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Pre-requisite:
If you have attended a NVC Foundation training or The Power of Empathy workshops, and read, studied, watched videos and practised NVC, then this would be helpful to enrich your experience. If you are a “natural giraffe” and/or think you can gain insights into the NVC Empathy process at work, you’re very welcome to join us. There is learning to be gained at every level, as an observer or participant, and no one is ever turned away.    

Date: Sunday 24 July 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com
OR Phone/Text 027 345 2010

Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region nearly 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, Peace Movement Aotearoa, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, Early Childhood Management, Alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Brief Testimonials from Participants: 

“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Venue:  
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue: 
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), just up the road from Pita Pit opposite Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south. Look up Hall Street and you’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free car parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Here is a google map  https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Preparing for a ‘Good Death’

      ~ PREPARING FOR A GOOD DEATH ~
Life is a Song. Death is a hymn. Let your voice be heard. ~ Sophia Tara

Death Cafe Wellington – Sunday 10 July 2pm-4pm
Preparing for a ‘Good Death’ – Sunday 10 July 4pm-6pm
Come to one or both. See Events Sidebar.

In the bustle of daily living, have you paused to give thought or consideration in preparing for your sacred exit and Good Death – even if you are able bodied and in good health?  Has the possibility of a sudden death by accident, misadventure or an unexpected diagnosis of terminal illness ever crossed your mind?  Are you prepared to face your own inevitable mortality?

The morbid fear of death has been the bane of human existence since time immemorial.  Some cultures have celebrated it as part of the normal cycle of life, yet many Western cultures like ours, resist facing it and live in constant fear of death.

Therefore we have no public education systems that teach us the true meaning of Life and Death and how to prepare ourselves and loved ones for its inevitability. Many churches and religious institutions offer no pragmatic or emotional support and comfort.  We are left to educate and inform ourselves and one another.

Exploring Life’s last sacred frontier of Death and Dying will be Self-Empowering and help to mitigate the fear of death.  At the end of life, a Good Death is all we can hope for – to Plan and Prepare for it in advance will be a gift to ourselves and to our loved ones.

What is a ‘Good Death’
According to well researched sources, here are 7 ‘Good Death’ Points to Ponder:

(1) To Experience as little pain as possible.
(2) To Recognize and resolve interpersonal conflicts.
(3) To Satisfy any remaining wishes that are consistent with your present condition.
(4) To Review your life to find meaning.
(5) To Give control to a trusted person, committed to ensuring the kind of death you desire.
(6) To Protect yourself from needless medical procedures that may dehumanize or demean you.
(7) To Decide how social and how alert you want to be.

What Will You Experience at this ‘Good Death’ Workshop?
* Time to reflect and think about the meaning of a Good Death
* An unique experiential exercise to help you clarify many of the 7 Good Death Points listed
* A document of your unique Good Death exercise to take home and refine over the years
* A gathering of like-spirited souls who wish for a ‘Good Death’ like yourself
* A Good Death Circle of Conversation and Sharing
* To be seen and heard with Compassion and Empathy
* Your Feelings and Needs acknowledged and honoured
* To ‘Give Sorrow Words’ and to weave a ‘Good Death’ into the Tapestry of Life
* A Song and Dance of Celebration to Life and Death

Your ‘Good Death’ Facilitator

Sophia facilitated New Zealand’s first Public Death Cafes, about death, life, and the celebration of Living and Dying in compassionate community.  She initiated and founded the Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) grassroots movement in the Wellington Region, and trained with the founder of NVC, the late Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales of Living Compassion and many trainers from USA, UK and Australia.

Sophia is an experienced Compassionate Communication and Empathy teacher for nearly 12 years.  She has facilitated many workshops over the years on Grief and Mourning, Guilt and Shame, Anger and Depression, to help mitigate the changing landscape of life’s trials, tribulations and unexpressed grief.  This personal and/or family loss may be due to the death of a beloved family member or friend, a cherished pet, separation, divorce, children leaving home, bullying, loss or change of residence, redundancy, business liquidation or bankruptcy.

Sophia has facilitated workshops on Self-Compassion, Empathy and Compassion for others within the larger framework of ‘Transforming Planetary Despair’ exploring and “Feeling the pain of the world” repressed fear, isolation and despair for our global future.

She has also facilitated a wide range of workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change makers, including the Waldorf-Steiner community, Intentional Living groups, Buddhist and Spiritual centres, Peace Movement Aotearoa, Occupy NZ, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers and parents in school communities, and the general public.  She deeply resonates with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations.

Book & Pay 
$20 towards venue costs, refreshments and resources.
You can also bring your cash with you on the day.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘Good Death’ and your name as reference: 
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia:
 sophiatara8@gmail.com
OR Phone/Text: 027 345 2010
OR RSVP on this Meetup page Preparing for a Good Death  

Venue:  
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue: 
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), just up the road from Pita Pit opposite Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south. Look up Hall Street and you’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost. The church is located in a back section of Hall Avenue. Plenty of free car parks at the church. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Here is a google map  https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

Do You Play the Blame Game of Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong? 

Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame  (DAGS) are caused by moralistic judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which results in the arrival of its first cousins – Guilt, Shame and Depression.

Anger tells us we think the ‘bad person’ is somebody else.
Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the ‘bad person’.

These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking, moralistic judgements and the ‘domination’ and ‘power over’ systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They lead to a culture of violence and bullying, adversely affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves.

In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us.

What Will You Experience at this Workshop?
1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
2) Unpacking the language of Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS)
3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the ‘Jackal Show’
4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour
5) Find the ‘gift’ beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy and to ‘make life more wonderful’
6) Shift your thinking patterns and self-talk that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression
7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs, painful relationships and to make requests of yourself and others
8) Experiential DAGS Dancing on the ‘Flower of Life’
9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an ‘Enemy Image’
10) Build your EQ Literacy with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation

NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Date: Sunday 24 July 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings 
email Sophia nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

OR Phone/Text 027 345 2010

Your Facilitator: 
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region nearly 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, Peace Movement Aotearoa, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Recent Testimonials from Participants: 

“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Venue:  
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue: 
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), just up the road from Pita Pit opposite Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south. Look up Hall Street and you’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free car parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Here is a google map https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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