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     EMPATHY IS A QUALITY OF CHARACTER THAT CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

In Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we come to understand Empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what’s alive for them in a given moment.  We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen. 

Date: Sunday 21 August 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below 

All Late Bookings Are Welcome and the door is always open on the day – no one is turned away 🙂


The Power of Empathy:

Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication.  It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said.  It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking.  While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-EMPATHY skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourselves and others.  This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being, that brings healing compassionate connection into our life, through the Power of Empathy.

What is Self-Empathy? 

In Self-Empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently.  We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying and the ‘stories’ we tell ourselves.


What Will You Experience In This 4 Hour Workshop? 

Summary of the 4-step NVC process
The 4 ways of hearing
The Empathy Dance integration
Strategies & Requests
Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework
Role Playing Conflict Situations With Empathy
Strengthen your PRESENCE skills
Experience an Empathy Circle
The Empathy Dance to NVC Songs
Develop Emotional Intelligence & Literacy (EQ)

Your Facilitator:
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region more than 10 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, and also Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Recent Testimonials from Participants:
“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Book & Pay:
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.  Please let me know if you have difficulty with payment.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

RSVP & Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions to get to the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.
Google map https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz 

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Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

Do You Play the Blame Game of Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong? 

Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame  (DAGS) are caused by moralistic judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which result in the arrival of its first cousins – Guilt, Shame and Depression.

Anger tells us we think the ‘bad person’ is somebody else.
Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the ‘bad person’.

These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking, moralistic judgements and the ‘domination’ and ‘power over’ systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They lead to a culture of violence and bullying, adversely affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves.

In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us.

What Will You Experience at this Workshop?
1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
2) Unpacking the language of Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS)
3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the ‘Jackal Show’
4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour
5) Find the ‘gift’ beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy and to ‘make life more wonderful’
6) Shift your thinking patterns and self-talk that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression
7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs, painful relationships and to make requests of yourself and others
8) Experiential DAGS Dancing on the ‘Flower of Life’
9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an ‘Enemy Image’
10) Build your EQ Literacy with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation

NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Pre-requisite:
If you have attended a NVC Foundation training or The Power of Empathy workshops, and read, studied, watched videos and practised NVC, then this would be helpful to enrich your experience. If you are a “natural giraffe” and/or think you can gain insights into the NVC Empathy process at work, you’re very welcome to join us. There is learning to be gained at every level, as an observer or participant, and no one is ever turned away.    

Date: Sunday 24 July 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com
OR Phone/Text 027 345 2010

Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region nearly 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, Peace Movement Aotearoa, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, Early Childhood Management, Alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Brief Testimonials from Participants: 

“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Venue:  
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue: 
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), just up the road from Pita Pit opposite Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south. Look up Hall Street and you’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  The church is located in a back section. Plenty of free car parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Here is a google map  https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Preparing for a ‘Good Death’

      ~ PREPARING FOR A GOOD DEATH ~
Life is a Song. Death is a hymn. Let your voice be heard. ~ Sophia Tara

Death Cafe Wellington – Sunday 10 July 2pm-4pm
Preparing for a ‘Good Death’ – Sunday 10 July 4pm-6pm
Come to one or both. See Events Sidebar.

In the bustle of daily living, have you paused to give thought or consideration in preparing for your sacred exit and Good Death – even if you are able bodied and in good health?  Has the possibility of a sudden death by accident, misadventure or an unexpected diagnosis of terminal illness ever crossed your mind?  Are you prepared to face your own inevitable mortality?

The morbid fear of death has been the bane of human existence since time immemorial.  Some cultures have celebrated it as part of the normal cycle of life, yet many Western cultures like ours, resist facing it and live in constant fear of death.

Therefore we have no public education systems that teach us the true meaning of Life and Death and how to prepare ourselves and loved ones for its inevitability. Many churches and religious institutions offer no pragmatic or emotional support and comfort.  We are left to educate and inform ourselves and one another.

Exploring Life’s last sacred frontier of Death and Dying will be Self-Empowering and help to mitigate the fear of death.  At the end of life, a Good Death is all we can hope for – to Plan and Prepare for it in advance will be a gift to ourselves and to our loved ones.

What is a ‘Good Death’
According to well researched sources, here are 7 ‘Good Death’ Points to Ponder:

(1) To Experience as little pain as possible.
(2) To Recognize and resolve interpersonal conflicts.
(3) To Satisfy any remaining wishes that are consistent with your present condition.
(4) To Review your life to find meaning.
(5) To Give control to a trusted person, committed to ensuring the kind of death you desire.
(6) To Protect yourself from needless medical procedures that may dehumanize or demean you.
(7) To Decide how social and how alert you want to be.

What Will You Experience at this ‘Good Death’ Workshop?
* Time to reflect and think about the meaning of a Good Death
* An unique experiential exercise to help you clarify many of the 7 Good Death Points listed
* A document of your unique Good Death exercise to take home and refine over the years
* A gathering of like-spirited souls who wish for a ‘Good Death’ like yourself
* A Good Death Circle of Conversation and Sharing
* To be seen and heard with Compassion and Empathy
* Your Feelings and Needs acknowledged and honoured
* To ‘Give Sorrow Words’ and to weave a ‘Good Death’ into the Tapestry of Life
* A Song and Dance of Celebration to Life and Death

Your ‘Good Death’ Facilitator

Sophia facilitated New Zealand’s first Public Death Cafes, about death, life, and the celebration of Living and Dying in compassionate community.  She initiated and founded the Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) grassroots movement in the Wellington Region, and trained with the founder of NVC, the late Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales of Living Compassion and many trainers from USA, UK and Australia.

Sophia is an experienced Compassionate Communication and Empathy teacher for nearly 12 years.  She has facilitated many workshops over the years on Grief and Mourning, Guilt and Shame, Anger and Depression, to help mitigate the changing landscape of life’s trials, tribulations and unexpressed grief.  This personal and/or family loss may be due to the death of a beloved family member or friend, a cherished pet, separation, divorce, children leaving home, bullying, loss or change of residence, redundancy, business liquidation or bankruptcy.

Sophia has facilitated workshops on Self-Compassion, Empathy and Compassion for others within the larger framework of ‘Transforming Planetary Despair’ exploring and “Feeling the pain of the world” repressed fear, isolation and despair for our global future.

She has also facilitated a wide range of workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change makers, including the Waldorf-Steiner community, Intentional Living groups, Buddhist and Spiritual centres, Peace Movement Aotearoa, Occupy NZ, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers and parents in school communities, and the general public.  She deeply resonates with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations.

Book & Pay 
$20 towards venue costs, refreshments and resources.
You can also bring your cash with you on the day.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘Good Death’ and your name as reference: 
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia:
 sophiatara8@gmail.com
OR Phone/Text: 027 345 2010
OR RSVP on this Meetup page Preparing for a Good Death  

Venue:  
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue: 
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), just up the road from Pita Pit opposite Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south. Look up Hall Street and you’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost. The church is located in a back section of Hall Avenue. Plenty of free car parks at the church. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Here is a google map  https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

Facebook:
Death Cafe Wellington New Zealand

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Death Cafe New Zealand

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Death Cafe Wellington NZ

Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

Do You Play the Blame Game of Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong? 

Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame  (DAGS) are caused by moralistic judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which results in the arrival of its first cousins – Guilt, Shame and Depression.

Anger tells us we think the ‘bad person’ is somebody else.
Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the ‘bad person’.

These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking, moralistic judgements and the ‘domination’ and ‘power over’ systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They lead to a culture of violence and bullying, adversely affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves.

In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us.

What Will You Experience at this Workshop?
1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
2) Unpacking the language of Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS)
3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the ‘Jackal Show’
4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour
5) Find the ‘gift’ beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy and to ‘make life more wonderful’
6) Shift your thinking patterns and self-talk that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression
7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs, painful relationships and to make requests of yourself and others
8) Experiential DAGS Dancing on the ‘Flower of Life’
9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an ‘Enemy Image’
10) Build your EQ Literacy with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation

NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Date: Sunday 24 July 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings 
email Sophia nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

OR Phone/Text 027 345 2010

Your Facilitator: 
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region nearly 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, Peace Movement Aotearoa, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Recent Testimonials from Participants: 

“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Venue:  
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue: 
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), just up the road from Pita Pit opposite Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south. Look up Hall Street and you’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free car parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Here is a google map https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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The Power of Empathy – Today’s Buzzword!

 EMPATHY IS A QUALITY OF CHARACTER THAT CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

In Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we come to understand Empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what’s alive for them in a given moment.  We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen.
 
Date: Sunday 22 May 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

All Late Bookings Are Welcome and the door is always open on the day – no one is turned away 🙂 

The Power of Empathy:
Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication.  It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said.  It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking.  While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-EMPATHY skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourselves and others.  This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being, that brings healing compassionate connection into our life, through the Power of Empathy. 

What is Self-Empathy? 
In Self-Empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently.  We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying and the ‘stories’ we tell ourselves.

What will you learn in this 4 hour Workshop? 
Summary of the 4-step NVC process
The 4 ways of hearing
The 4 step ‘dance’
Strategies & Requests
Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework
Role Playing Conflict Situations With Empathy
Strengthen your PRESENCE skills
Experience an Empathy Circle
The Empathy Dance to NVC Songs
Develop Emotional Intelligence & Literacy (EQ)

Your Facilitator:
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region more than 10 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, and also Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Recent Testimonials from Participants:
“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Book & Pay:
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.  Please let me know if you have difficulty with payment.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

RSVP & Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions to get to the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Google map https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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The Power of Empathy

 NVC Community

     EMPATHY IS A QUALITY OF CHARACTER THAT CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

In Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we come to understand Empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what’s alive for them in a given moment.  We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen.
 
Date: Sunday 22 May 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

All Late Bookings Are Welcome and the door is always open on the day – no one is turned away 🙂

The Power of Empathy:
Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication.  It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said.  It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking.  While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-EMPATHY skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourselves and others.  This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being, that brings healing compassionate connection into our life, through the Power of Empathy.    
What is Self-Empathy? 
In Self-Empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently.  We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying and the ‘stories’ we tell ourselves.

What will you learn in this 4 hour workshop? 
Summary of the 4-step NVC process
The 4 ways of hearing
The 4 step ‘dance’
Strategies & Requests
Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework
Role Playing Conflict Situations With Empathy
Strengthen your PRESENCE skills
Experience an Empathy Circle
The Empathy Dance to NVC Songs
Develop Emotional Intelligence & Literacy (EQ)

Your Facilitator:
Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region more than 14 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, and also Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Recent Testimonials from Participants:
“Highly recommended!  Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way.  Very inspiring, thank you!”

“Excellent – well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills.  Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate.”

Book & Pay:
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.  Please let me know if you have difficulty with payment.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

RSVP & Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions to get to the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Google maphttps://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Compassionate Nonviolent Communication

 ~ What You Say Next Will Change Your World ~

What You Say Next Will Change Your World
Everything we do in life involves communication. Revolutionary yet simple, Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a practical and learnable process for communicating with empathy, honesty, confidence and compassion.

Date: Sunday 17 April 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

What is NVC?
Are you wondering what Compassionate Nonviolent Communication is all about? It’s a powerful process for inspiring compassionate connection and action, providing a set of skills to address all of these problems, from the most intimate relationships to global political conflicts. NVC can help prevent conflicts as well as peacefully resolve them.

Join us for a lively, heart-connecting 4 hours of learning the basics of NVC. Designed to be a fun and engaging learning experience, this course will give you some new awareness and tools you can use to begin transforming your world, one conscious dialogue at a time.

What You Will Learn in this 4 hour Workshop:
Overview of the NVC process
The Key Ingredients
Differentiation of NVC awareness/automatic response
Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
The OFNR 4 step model
Playing in the Field of Feelings & Needs
Translating Faux Feelings
Empathic Listening

NVC supports connection
with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Your facilitator Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region and organised workshops attended by many in New Zealand. She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg and many overseas trainers. She has facilitated a wide range of workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including the Rudolph Steiner community, Intentional Living, Buddhists, Occupy NZ, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, Peace Movement Aotearoa, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public. She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC, and its active path to peace and unity, with an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions to get to the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that. Google map https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Compassionate Nonviolent Communication

 ~ What You Say Next Will Change Your World ~

Everything we do in life involves communication. Revolutionary yet simple, Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a practical and learnable process for communicating with empathy, honesty, confidence and compassion.

Date: Sunday 17 April 2016
Time: 2pm-6pm
Venue: see below

What is NVC?
Are you wondering what Compassionate Nonviolent Communication is all about? It’s a powerful process for inspiring compassionate connection and action, providing a set of skills to address all of these problems, from the most intimate relationships to global political conflicts. NVC can help prevent conflicts as well as peacefully resolve them.

Join us for a lively, heart-connecting 4 hours of learning the basics of NVC. Designed to be a fun and engaging learning experience, this course will give you some new awareness and tools you can use to begin transforming your world, one conscious dialogue at a time.

What You Will Learn in this 4 hour Workshop:
Overview of the NVC process
The Key Ingredients
Differentiation of NVC awareness/automatic response
Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication
The OFNR 4 step model
Playing in the Field of Feelings & Needs
Translating Faux Feelings
Empathic Listening

NVC supports connection
with oneself and others so everyone’s needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution.

Your facilitator Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region and organised workshops attended by many in New Zealand. She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg and many overseas trainers. She has facilitated a wide range of workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including the Rudolph Steiner community, Intentional Living, Buddhists, Occupy NZ, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, Peace Movement Aotearoa, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public. She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC, and its active path to peace and unity, with an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Book & Pay: 
$40 (unwaged)
$50 (waged)
Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

Venue:
Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions to get to the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue, just up the road from Pita Pit, across the road from Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south.  You’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost.  Plenty of free parks at the church.  If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that.  Google map https://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=100+Riddiford+Street,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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Empathy Cafe

Empathy is a quality of character that can change the world.

Empathy Cafes are based on the principles of Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC). They provide a safe supportive space in building self-compassion and self-confidence towards authentic expression. Developing emotional intelligence & literacy (EQ) skills enables one to engage in meaningful empathic connection with oneself and others, with a highly valued set of tools to navigate a challenging and often complex world of relationships.

Empathy Cafes are held monthly @ 6.30pm-8.30pm – dates are flexible and regulated to suit group needs.

Growing Emotional Intelligence & Literacy (EQ)

NVC helps to foster the growth of emotional intelligence and literacy skills, self-awareness leading to self-connection, self-compassion and self-acceptance. This brings clarity, attention and focus to observations, inner thoughts and feelings, expression of values, the beauty of needs and the power of requests.

The Power of Empathy
Empathy is at the very heart of Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC).  It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said.  It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking.  While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-EMPATHY skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourself and others.  NVC will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being that brings healing compassionate connection into our life through the Power of Empathy.

This form of NVC Empathy practice can be used very effectively in daily living, adding to the quality of inter-personal relationships at home, at work and in the community.  The outcome is renewed purpose and clarity, where each person is valued, seen and heard with empathy-compassion, and received with appreciation, gratitude and loving celebration.

Your facilitator Sophia has been facilitating Empathy Circles and NVC practice groups for many years in Wellington city, initially with a closed group, followed by an open community group of 15-20 people. Empathy Cafes are a valuable extension to NVC Foundation Trainings and the ongoing practice of Empathy skills.

Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region more than 14 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ.  She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, and Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers.  She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public.  She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

All Welcome
This Empathy Cafe Community group is open to everyone.

Book & Pay: $10 to help cover cost of venue and photocopy hand-outs as required. You can pay via internet banking or bring your cash with you.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘NVC’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries email: nvc.wellington.nz@gmail.com

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Vision
A world where all people are getting their needs met and resolving their conflicts peacefully. In this vision, people are using Compassionate Communication to create and participate in networks of global life-serving systems, within economics, education, justice, healthcare, and peace-making.

Mission
To contribute to this vision by facilitating the creation of life-serving systems within ourselves, within our homes, schools, workplaces, communities and service organisations. We begin with developing compassionate self-awareness, self-connection, creativity and action in the service of Life. Growing in NVC consciousness on our shared journey of Being and Becoming, One Heart at a time.

Special acknowledgement and deep gratitude to the late Dr Marshall Rosenberg, founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). He dedicated his life to the service of humanity through his tireless work of nonviolence for global peace. CCCANZ is grateful for the spiritual gift of Nonviolent Communication, its loving presence, compassion and beauty, daily enriching many lives.

Transforming Our World  With Compassion & Empathy One Heart At A Time
Centre for Compassionate Communication  Aotearoa New Zealand offers the following NVC Courses

* Introduction to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 2 – 4 hour presentation, summary and overview of NVC.

* Foundation Training – Introducing the Basics of NVC, experiential and interactive exercises, and a framework model to begin using NVC in daily Life. 

Special Purpose Trainings

* Transforming Guilt, Shame, Anger, Depression  
1 or 2 day workshop exploring the painful “stuck” emotions of Guilt, Shame, Anger, Depression. Explore possible entrenched causative effects & triggers, self-judgements & fear. Learn to mourn & celebrate. Process clarity through the expression of feelings & needs, authenticity & vulnerability. Build gradual understanding and personal transformation, through self-empathy, self-connection, self-acceptance and radical self-compassion.
Special Purpose Trainings – Available on request

* Parenting to Connect
1-2 day workshop for parents to connect, support and share challenges and joys, mournings and celebrations of parenthood. A safe place to express frustration, concerns, appreciation and care for your children. Experience clarity and connection, articulated through Compassionate & Collaborative Communication. Teenagers/adult “children” welcome with parent/s.

* Living Empathy & Ukuleles For Peace
Request a 1 day workshop exploring “Living Empathy” as a connective-empathic response in your daily relationships. Book a FUN day with your organisation, community group or social circle of friends. This workshop will teach you LIVING EMPATHY skills and introduce you to the UKULELE as an instrument of friendship, love and peace. We allocate one hour to teach basic ukulele skills and you will play a song or two within the hour! The ukulele is well-known for its magical influence to create friendships. Follow on with our Absolute Beginners’ Ukulele Course & other NVC workshop opportunities listed. Living Empathy & Ukuleles For Peace Available on request

* Transforming Bullying to Empathy
1 or 2 day workshop for schools & workplaces, homes & prisons with bullying issues and challenges. Seek to understand the common humanity of both ‘bullies’ and ‘victims’. Transform disconnecting enemy images to the Beauty of Needs and empathic connection. Develop NVC awareness and consciousness, emotional literacy and emotional intelligence.

* Transforming Planetary Despair
A social change workshop exploring “Feeling the pain of the world” repressed fear, isolation and despair for our global future. Realize that despair flows out of genuine compassion in its original meaning “suffering with”. Explore despair as the constellation of profound feelings, unmet values and needs. Let all feelings flow within-without, to reconnect with beauty, wonder, compassion, courage, empathy & connectedness to all Life. Break your heart open. Dance the Elm Dance of Hope.

* Living Compassion
Connecting the contextual qualities and deeper meaning of the Divine Essence: Compassion and Empathy, Mindfulness and Meditation, Reflection and Contemplation, Love in Action and NVC Spirituality. Understand the evolution and unique unfolding of Sacred Heart consciousness, Soul creativity and Life purpose. Tap into the threshold of the Living Energy. Resonate with your Soul Note and Soul Quality which makes you divinely unique.

* Unique Conscious Communities
Request a workshop for specific organizational and group needs, relevant to your workplace culture, or enhancing Peace Group initiatives, or living in sustainable Alternative Communities, or contemplative group awareness on the Spiritual Path of Compassion. Requests are most welcome from Inter-Faith, Meditation, Spiritual & New Age groups, First Nations, Multi-Ethnic and LGBTI/Rainbow Communities.

* Mediation for Groups, Families & Couples
Request a mediation session/s for your diverse needs to be fully seen, fully heard, mutually understood and mutually supported for creating empathic connection and collaboration-in-continuity.

* Exploring Grief & Compassionate Communication
Request a personal, family or group session/s for you and your loved ones to mitigate the changing landscape of life’s trials, tribulations and unexpressed grief. Your loss may be due to the death of a family member or friend, or loved pet, separation, divorce, children leaving home, loss or change of residence, redundancy, business liquidation or bankruptcy. Compassionate Communication unpacks tools and journals for expressing contemplative grief, reflection & mourning, clarity & connection, authenticity & vulnerability, compassion & empathy, gratitude, appreciation & celebration. To be seen, to be heard, to matter, in exploring deep personal grief, will encourage an open-hearted, self-healing process to begin, with self-awareness and radical self-compassion.

* Bring together your own unique group and request any of the above workshops to meet your group’s specific needs.

NB: Introduction to NVC or Foundation Training may be a pre-requisite to attend some Workshops.

Practice Group & Empathy Cafe
Meetup monthly, as per group demand, to practice NVC skills and empathic connection. A follow-on from NVC Trainings.

* Follow On & Extension Requests welcome for all workshops

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           Sophia Tara
Sophia bio imageNVC Facilitator – Sophia is Director and founder of the Centre for Compassionate Communication Aotearoa New Zealand (CCCANZ). She also initiated and founded the Nonviolent Communication grassroots movement in NZ’s capital city and the Wellington Region. Over the years, she organised NVC workshops for participants from all over Aotearoa-NZ, and trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales from Living Compassion, Miki Kashtan of BayNVC, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison from the USA, Gina Lawrie from the UK and many other certified trainers from USA and Australia.  

Sophia offers NVC trainings, practice groups and empathy circles. She has facilitated workshops for a wide range of groups, including the Steiner Waldorf community, Intentional alternative-lifestyle groups, Buddhist centres, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, Occupy New Zealand, Peace Movement Aotearoa, Chalkle Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities, Early Childhood Managers and Supervisors and the general public. She deeply resonates with the Spirituality of NVC with an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness.

Sophia facilitated NZ’s first public Death Cafes in Wellington where she utilises NVC skills of Empathy & Compassion Over the years she has run NVC workshops on Death & Dying, Grief and Mourning, Celebration and Gratitude, Depression, Anger, Guilt and Shame to help mitigate the changing landscape of life’s trials, tribulations and unexpressed grief. This personal and/or family loss may be due to the death of a beloved family member or friend, a cherished pet, separation, divorce, children leaving home,  loss or change of residence, redundancy, business liquidation or bankruptcy, and the widespread culture of “bullying” and mental health.

She has also facilitated NVC workshops within the larger framework of ‘Transforming Planetary Despair’ exploring and “Feeling the pain of the world” repressed fear, isolation and despair for our global future and Planet Earth – our home.

For over 25 years, Sophia has been an activist for social change and world peace. She is involved with peace communities, social change and spiritual activists, Transmission Meditation and Ageless Wisdom educators in NZ and all over the world. She writes newsletters, articles, blogs, poetry, music, and broadcasted NVC, Ageless Wisdom and Peace programmes on Access Radio 783AM. She is a keen photographer, video-movie maker, website creator, and also a Ukulele Music Teacher with a large group she founded called The Mighty Ukes.  

Sophia believes peace begins with each person and NVC offers tools, enabling us to make a paradigm shift in consciousness, from living in a culture of violence, towards a Culture of Peace,  Compassion and Empathy. She was creator and webmaster of  the first NVC Aotearoa-NZ national website, initiator/editor for the NVC NZ Community Connect newsletter, national database administrator and contact person over the years, for NVC Aotearoa-NZ.

Marshall Gems
We recognize that real educational reform is essential if today’s and tomorrow’s children are to live in a more peaceful, just and sustainable world. The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.