Death Cafe Wellington

DEATH CAFE, Wellington, NZ: Sunday 15 April @ 2pm – 4pm ????
Mt Vic Hub, 24E Elizabeth Street, Mt Victoria, Wellington
Sophia Tara launched the 1st ever public Death Cafe in New Zealand, in Wellington on 30 March 2014. Monthly gatherings to exchange conversations about life and death, to ponder and celebrate the Art of Living and Dying in compassionate community. Come share your stories, thoughts, anxieties, joys and fears. Together, we’ll take death gently out of the closet and make a friend of this inevitable companion to us all.
Death Cafes allow people to talk about death, but also sparks those conversations about life. These conversations will be free from ideology and adhere to Death Cafe principles not to lead participants towards any conclusion about life, death, or life after death, apart from their own thoughts and heart-felt contributions.
We provide a safe, agenda-free space to exchange mutual dialogue about life and death over tea and cake. Enjoy an afternoon sharing and mingling with like-spirited warm-hearted people.
Our conversations will be respectful to all participants and support everyone in expressing themselves within a non-judgmental sacred space.
We welcome everyone regardless of religion, faith, creed, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, disability or any other humanade condition.

Facilitator, Sophia Tara, is an experienced Compassionate Communication trainer and founded the Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and Death Cafe movements in the Wellington Region. She has facilitated public and private workshops over many years on Grief and Gratitude, Mourning and Celebration, Guilt, Shame, Anger and Depression to help mitigate the changing landscape of life’s trials, tribulations and unexpressed grief.

Koha Entry to help with cost of venue and refreshments.

Limited Space. Please RSVP to confirm attendance.

RSVP/Enquiries Email
Mt Vic Hub
24E Elizabeth Street, Mt Victoria
Wellington, New Zealand
Google Map Mt Vic Hub

Preparing for a ‘Good Death’

Life is a Song. Death is a hymn. Let your voice be heard. ~ Sophia Tara

Death Cafe Wellington – Sunday 10 July 2pm-4pm
Preparing for a ‘Good Death’ – Sunday 10 July 4pm-6pm
Come to one or both. See Events Sidebar.

In the bustle of daily living, have you paused to give thought or consideration in preparing for your sacred exit and Good Death – even if you are able bodied and in good health? Has the possibility of a sudden death by accident, misadventure or an unexpected diagnosis of terminal illness ever crossed your mind? Are you prepared to face your own inevitable mortality?

The morbid fear of death has been the bane of human existence since time immemorial. Some cultures have celebrated it as part of the normal cycle of life, yet many Western cultures like ours, resist facing it and live in constant fear of death.

Therefore we have no public education systems that teach us the true meaning of Life and Death and how to prepare ourselves and loved ones for its inevitability. Many churches and religious institutions offer no pragmatic or emotional support and comfort. We are left to educate and inform ourselves and one another.

Exploring Life’s last sacred frontier of Death and Dying will be Self-Empowering and help to mitigate the fear of death. At the end of life, a Good Death is all we can hope for – to Plan and Prepare for it in advance will be a gift to ourselves and to our loved ones.

What is a ‘Good Death’
According to well researched sources, here are 7 ‘Good Death’ Points to Ponder:

(1) To Experience as little pain as possible.
(2) To Recognize and resolve interpersonal conflicts.
(3) To Satisfy any remaining wishes that are consistent with your present condition.
(4) To Review your life to find meaning.
(5) To Give control to a trusted person, committed to ensuring the kind of death you desire.
(6) To Protect yourself from needless medical procedures that may dehumanize or demean you.
(7) To Decide how social and how alert you want to be.

What Will You Experience at this ‘Good Death’ Workshop?
* Time to reflect and think about the meaning of a Good Death
* An unique experiential exercise to help you clarify many of the 7 Good Death Points listed
* A document of your unique Good Death exercise to take home and refine over the years
* A gathering of like-spirited souls who wish for a ‘Good Death’ like yourself
* A Good Death Circle of Conversation and Sharing
* To be seen and heard with Compassion and Empathy
* Your Feelings and Needs acknowledged and honoured
* To ‘Give Sorrow Words’ and to weave a ‘Good Death’ into the Tapestry of Life
* A Song and Dance of Celebration to Life and Death

Your ‘Good Death’ Facilitator

Sophia facilitated New Zealand’s first Public Death Cafes, about death, life, and the celebration of Living and Dying in compassionate community. She initiated and founded the Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) grassroots movement in the Wellington Region, and trained with the founder of NVC, the late Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales of Living Compassion and many trainers from USA, UK and Australia.

Sophia is an experienced Compassionate Communication and Empathy teacher for nearly 14 years. She has facilitated many workshops over the years on Grief and Mourning, Guilt and Shame, Anger and Depression, to help mitigate the changing landscape of life’s trials, tribulations and unexpressed grief. This personal and/or family loss may be due to the death of a beloved family member or friend, a cherished pet, separation, divorce, children leaving home, bullying, loss or change of residence, redundancy, business liquidation or bankruptcy.

Sophia has facilitated workshops on Self-Compassion, Empathy and Compassion for others within the larger framework of ‘Transforming Planetary Despair’ exploring and “Feeling the pain of the world” repressed fear, isolation and despair for our global future.

She has also facilitated a wide range of workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change makers, including the Waldorf-Steiner community, Intentional Living groups, Buddhist and Spiritual centres, Peace Movement Aotearoa, Occupy NZ, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers and parents in school communities, and the general public. She deeply resonates with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations.

Book & Pay
$20 towards venue costs, refreshments and resources.
You can also bring your cash with you on the day.

Please deposit into the following account with ‘Good Death’ and your name as reference:
Trading Bank: Kiwibank
Name of Account: Spirit of Peace
Account Number: 38-9006-0358290-00

Enquiries/bookings email Sophia:
OR Phone/Text: 027 345 2010
OR RSVP on this Meetup page Preparing for a Good Death

Trinity Union Church
11 Hall Avenue (off Hall Street)
Newtown, Wellington, New Zealand

Instructions for the Trinity Union Church venue:
Pedestrian and car access through Hall Avenue (off Hall Street), just up the road from Pita Pit opposite Newtown School, next block down from Wellington Hospital going south. Look up Hall Street and you’ll see “Hall Avenue” clearly marked with a white signpost. The church is located in a back section of Hall Avenue. Plenty of free car parks at the church. If you’re catching a bus from the city, get off at the Wellington Hospital bus stop and walk to Hall Street – Hall Avenue is off that. Here is a google map,+Newtown,+Wellington,+nz

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